Taryn Lightens Up

As much as I hate to admit it, I am a recovering sympathy addict. As I’ve mentioned, the last year was certainly not an easy one and everyone I knew was quick to sympathize and validate how crappy my situation was. Somewhere along the way, not only did I agree with them, I started to view myself in a victimized sort of fashion. I HATE admitting that. But, in order for me to move on and grow from this learning experience, I suppose honesty is the best policy.

It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to

I’ve been in Big Bear Lake nearing three weeks and as much fun as it’s been, I spent the first two weeks licking my wounds and throwing the ultimate of pity parties.

 

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Seriously, I’m embarrassed to admit that I was high on my “I’ve gone through traumatic experiences” vibes, that I was failing to see all of the awesome blessings and opportunities that had fallen on my lap.

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Life sucks, poor me. Lol

 

Just because you’re right, doesn’t mean you’re right

Sometime last week, a voice that I hadn’t heard in a while popped into my head and asked me when I was going to be done feeling sorry for myself. For the first time in a while, I started to realize how my frame of view was biting me in the behind. In short, I was pouring salt in shallow wounds, not allowing myself to heal. Basically, I was fighting myself for no apparent reason.

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I can look at this in one of two ways. I can either:

A: Be upset at people and situations that were really messed up, putting a damper on my worldview. Or…

B: Accept what happened, forgive people, and enjoy life as God intended rain or shine.

 

Lighten up and move on

So, I’ve chosen the latter, and my my my, what a difference a shift in perspective makes! I am acutely aware of how blessed I am. I have my health, my family, a career that I enjoy, and the opportunity to try new things and visit random places. I don’t want to waste my time wallowing in self-pity or ruminating on the negative stuff. Nope, I want to live life with the glass half-full.

I’m not denying my trials and tribulations. I’m choosing to accept that they happened and quick frankly, I may be a better person for it! I would be remiss if I didn’t credit God and my time reading the Bible for helping me in the healing process. I’m no saint, and I’ve realized that if I’m forgiven for my shortcomings, it’s high time that I did the same for others.

Anyway, I’m off to finish up some work and then I’m off to my knitting class! I’m learning how to make a scarf, so far, I’m learning rather quickly and I am having fun sitting in with the local crafters up here. Happy Tuesday!

 

Taryn Does Photography

Recently, I came to the realization that I don’t actually partake in the activities that I am interested in. Photography has been on my list of things to do for so long, but the perfectionist in me has kept me in a perpetual thinking state. I have to laugh at myself because I want to be “great” yet I hadn’t started.

After reading a few photography blogs on different techniques, lighting, etc., I gave it a shot. I even dabbled in some editing. It’s not perfect, but, I am enjoying the process. Plus, I’m stretching some creative muscles I didn’t know I had. My goal is to shoot every day. Lord knows I have the time, so why not?! Here are a few snaps I took on my walk with Abbey today. I used a Canon EOS Rebel T6.

 

Eat, Pray, WTF…

Hi there!

I’m going, to be frank, this past year has been a total shitshow; for better (totally!), and for worse.

I’ve experienced a ton of growth, but not without having to go through some very extreme losses. I suppose this is what the good Lord meant by pruning. Without getting into the specifics, this year has taught me a lot about myself. I’ve learned about my good habits, my bad habits, and the habits that well, we’re gladly abandoning.

The really cool thing about going through messed up situations is that it teaches you about perspective. Funnily enough, even though I’ve learned some painful lessons, lost some relationships that I thought were on solid ground, etc. I can’t help but thank God for the experience.

Ok, I swear I’m not crazy or a masochist, but this year has taught me sooooo much, I would be a fool to consider it anything else but a blessing. Which leads me to explain why I’m finally back on my little blog.

Same weirdo, new direction

In light of my new outlook, I’ve decided to abandon my sense of normalcy and hit the road. I’ve gone AWOL. I figure since my parents are out of the country, there’s no one to protest my departure from the norm. That said, Abbey and I are going to take some time to travel around the US. Currently, we are in Big Bear Lake recovering from matrimonial hell (more on that later). My goal for my travels is to learn new things, try stuff that normally makes me uncomfortable, and finish these dang novels that have been percolating in my brains for SO LONG!!! This isn’t one of those I’m going to “find” myself trips. I know who I am, I just really want to explore before I get too old and hate myself for not doing anything scary. Also, hence the name change of this blog. 😉

 

Anyway, that’s what’s up with me. Stay tuned for more shenanigans. In the meantime, here are some photos of my trip so far. Cheers!

 

 

 

Mental Health

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Hi Peeps,
Today’s Quote
“What you feed your mind determines the fate of your mental health issues in the future, so feed and use as much biblical wisdom as you can, to avoid the potential mental meltdowns in life.” ~ Jon Barnes

Issues

Personal issues can be devastating when God’s plan is not in place in your life because of disobedience to the truth and not following God’s path that good people and parents have set for us.  When parents are not good role models, follow God’s examples and stories. Since listening to God and other good people early in life is not the case for many, major issues tend to develop and corrupt future lifestyles. Damage is normally caused by your own hands. Reaping what you sow can take some time to catch up with you and your deviant ways, as well. As…

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My Way

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Hi Peeps,
Today’s Quote
“In order to improve, you need to play and hangout with people who are more honest and better than you, so that you can learn from them as they learn from you, while working out God’s Plan for your life.” ~ Jon Barnes

Blame

We spend years of our lives watching God work through lives blessing people, particularly our parents, grandparents, and teachers, yet we still don’t listen to the people who are smarter than we are. In our arrogance, we make the same mistakes in relationships by running away from the test of improvement, hiding behind a beer, drug, computer, cell phone, TV, food, or some excuse to make ourselves feel better. We lie and smile with comfort. In a true relationship, you must practice each day doing and telling the truth, because your spouse will call you out on your negative and positive behaviors…

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Make Good

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Hi Peeps,
Today’s Quote
“You must make good out of the situation and lifestyle that you are in by following God’s Instructions, Commandments, and Suggestions, along with His Word and Spirit, so that your good light of love shines to help others and know God.” ~ Jon Barnes

Makes

Create and follow God’s lead by using His plans, committing your time, energy, words, works, and talent for yourself, friends, and your family. Do not fight against what God has set in motion or do not let the devil change your mind about executing God’s Plans for your life each day. Make each step, word, work, and ideas count, with a God fearing, loving, lasting leap of faith into action. Do it with all that you have. Wicked people will try to seduce you.

Goods

You are not gambling when you bet on God’s Plan as your…

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Reach

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Hi Peeps,
Today’s Quote
“Reach and embrace your adjustments and improvements with God’s standards so that you connect with a variety of people and shining your holy light of truth from your biblically inspired lifestyle.”   ~ Jon Barnes

Consistent

Living with consistent standards from God and His Bible Stories helps us to understand faith, belief, fairness, and equity in copying God’s lifestyle. We naturally and consistently grow daily in Him as we study, read, pray, reach, and embrace God’s plans for our lives, while still being content. When the appropriate changes and new orders arrive, we are delighted that God gives us plans for our future with amazing outcomes and blessings to all the people we meet. We consistently reap what we sow and your fruit is always Good by following God’s farming techniques.

Reach 

Reach for your dreams and goals in the Lord as you plan, prepare…

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Forest VS Trees

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Hi Peeps,

Today’s Quote

“Don’t get distracted within the trees of the forest of your life as minor details can derail your overall objective.” ~Taryn

The Details

When we’re going through tough times, we often get stuck looking at the immediate individual issues, rather than looking at the journey overall. Like the old idiom, “the Devil is in the details” sometimes he’ll throw a wrench into your plans, pushing you to only see the problems instead of the progress that has occurred in your life.

The Big Picture

If you find yourself becoming discouraged, take a step back and look at the forest for the trees. Yes, there are individual trees, but if you fail to look at the bigger picture, the arrival time to your destination will be extended. We will all experience moments and situations that will make us question our goals and if we’re actually following the…

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Stay the Course

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Hi Peeps,

Today’s Quote

“Stay the course that you were given, relying on the Word to light your path along the way.” ~Taryn Barnes

The Path 

We each receive different instructions that lead to the same road, which can be confusing if we’re looking at someone else’s GPS rather than our own. God gives us personal direction as we embark on our walk of faith.

Detour

At times we try and navigate according to our own directions or under the advisement of someone else. It leads us to the bumpy roads that are deceptive in nature, yet seem pleasant to travel on. Ultimately, we realize that we’re on the wrong road, trying to find our way back to our personal path.

Holy GPS

Fortunately, God’s GPS doesn’t need wifi and will never run out of battery. As we turn our hearts to him, His holy GPS reactivates, directing us back…

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Frozen

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Hi Peeps,

Today’s Quote

“Don’t allow yourselves to become frozen in fear by your trials as they are a stealthy attack to stop you from doing good.” ~Taryn Barnes

Fear

When we allow fear to plague our hearts and minds, we stop relying on God and start obsessing over our personal circumstances. Like ice coursing through our veins, our progress, and good works come to a halt, frozen in time, while evil enjoys the temporary setback. Though there are times where we lose battles, we must always remember the war has already been won.

Melt

Melt away your fear by remembering who made you. We are all capable of finishing our race in victory when we lean on God’s principles and not our own understanding. When we focus on the forest and not the individual trees, then we can see the stumbling ice blocks for what they really are, desperate attempts…

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